Showing posts with label men. Show all posts
Showing posts with label men. Show all posts

Saturday, August 13, 2011

"UNITED" States of America...The James Anderson Case

So, I have been trying to make an effort to stay up on National news. In my doing so, I came across the most saddening story about a man, James Anderson. As the doll that can cover it all, I will certainly be offering an opinion about this story. For those of you that are not familiar with the James Anderson story, here is an excerpt about the story from CNN's website:

"Jackson, Mississippi (CNN) -- On a recent Sunday morning just before dawn, two carloads of white teenagers drove to Jackson, Mississippi, on what the county district attorney says was a mission of hate: to find and hurt a black person. In a parking lot on the western side of town they found their victim. James Craig Anderson, a 49-year-old auto plant worker, was standing in a parking lot, near his car. The teens allegedly beat Anderson repeatedly, yelled racial epithets, including "White Power!" according to witnesses. Hinds County District Attorney Robert Shuler Smith says a group of the teens then climbed into their large Ford F250 green pickup truck, floored the gas, and drove the truck right over Anderson, killing him instantly. "

I can imagine that, like myself, most people have been FLABBERGASTED by this story!! For a young African American woman it's; frustrating, infuriating, astonishing, hurtful, and a REMINDER!!! America refuses to part with her first, truest, longest lasting romance with RACISM!! Racism is ever present and abound...the oppression, discrimination, prejudice against people of color, namely African American people will never be something we REMEMBER. We did not need to know this story to remind us of this fact, just look at the hard time that the President of the Nation is getting and we all know why its that way! Oh and remember the Jena 6 in Jena, Louisiana? Yea, that was less than 10 years ago..forgot about that? I posted about that too!

While, the death of James Anderson and the means by which he died should really not be a surprise to people, it is because of where we are as a country, but honestly it should not be because of the same reason. Mississippi especially, has teetered tottered with it's Jim Crow past since the day of Reconstruction. Doubt me? The state did not adopt the 13th Amendment UNTIL 1995!!!! HOWEVER, with ALL OF THAT, taken into account; the nerve, the gull, the motivation, the will of someone to act the way those teenagers did that night is ASTONISHING, APPALLING, SHOCKING, HATEFUL, MORBID TO say the LEAST!!


I will be glued to the media to see just how the state of Mississippi, who has declared this a racial, hate crime already, will handle this case and the offenders.



They should be made example of in every way possible, National examples.


Let this incident remind us that to know one's history and to progress as a unit and a country is to also take on the responsibility to personally rectify it by any means necessary. It is PRE-Election year, remember the voting rights act was not passed until 1965, schools were not desegregated until 1954, it took 232 years approximately to get our first President of color, the President was just publicly called a "Tar baby", and everyday subtle gestures of racism are among us all. These were not old people that killed James Anderson. They did not burn crosses and sport white robes and masks. These were simply teenagers with evil intentions that had fatal results...in the America we live in NOW! It was not that long ago that the parents, grandparents, and great grandparents of these children hosed down blacks, refused service to blacks, and owned slaves! Like folk tales, and recipes, ideas of racism and evil are passed down through generations. WE, AMERICANS, have to KNOW better to do better for the common good. My prayers are extended to both the family of James Anderson as well as his soul, and the families of those teenagers.


Will Mississippi adequately seek justice?


Friday, December 17, 2010

woes of the dating girl..single woman blues

Cruising a popular online forum for bloggers, I came across a thread posted by a young woman that read something like help me figure out what's wrong with me, i'm trying to find Mr.Right!
My question is, does Mr.Right and Mrs.Right actually exist or is there just Mr. & Mrs. Good Enough? What constitutes someone as "Right" and is that purely personal to the seeker of love? Furthermore, is monogamy a thing of the past?
I ask because everyone seems to just be kickin' it, "talking", chillin', and doing them. I hear very few people, young and old alike, actually taking steps to be with one another exclusively to learn and embrace growing in love together. What's up with that? I mean we're closer than we've ever been before right, with blogger, twitter, facebook, bbm, email, myspace, skype, messenger, text messages, etc. The list just goooooes!! With all of the these social mediums to meet, interact, and get acquainted with one another, why does it seem, and I stress SEEM because I have not studied this or anything, that healthy, monogamous, relationships of substance are so few and far in between?? I mean I'm not even talking about marriage, that's another can of worms. I'm simply speaking of exclusive courtships, RELATIONSHIPS between two people. It seems like everyone is scared to man or woman up and put both feet in for fear of getting GOT so we continue to "play the game", or making sure we get them before they "GET" us....but why??? How come monogamy seems to have such a bad rap? How can that be overcome? and have the barriers, whatever they may be, that are preventing healthy, loving relationships, long relationships always been there, but because of the forementioned social mediums they're ever so noticeable?

I mean really? She was, at least as it relates to looks, a perfectly attractive woman...has it really come to women taking to social networks on the world wide web to find love or a worthy date???

Wednesday, September 8, 2010

Northern Swag v. Southern Charm

LADIES!!! I'm from the DMV that's the D.C, Maryland, Virginia area for those that don't know! Born and raised in the sexy nation's capitol!!!! To some i'm from the north, to others i'm what they call a southern belle and to others I fall right in between living here. However, my question is to the ladies....
When it comes to men, I always find myself drawn to the confidence, swag (yea i hate the word too), walk, accent, style, and flava of a guy from up top...most notably The Empire and Garden States (that's New York and New Jersey)...I like them, the slang, the cockiness, and perceived rudeness, the way they rock a fitted, and call you ma!!!!!!!!!
BUT....
I'm aware that some ladies prefer a man south of the mason dixon...we call them, well, the worthy ones, Southern Gentleman. They're handy, can fix you a good meal, likely open all your doors, court you the old fashioned way (flowers, romance, walks). To me, they tend to be softer, gentler, and sweeter....even the "hard" ones....they're a good look too.
However, I have a preference so I was wondering if my readers/followers did too????? What's your preference Lovin' from up top OR a good ol' southern gentleman?!?!?!?!? NORTH OR SOUTH???

Thursday, July 1, 2010

Morning tea...


The questions i'm asking my fab followers this morning are:

Would you relocate for love?? Under what circumstances would you move for love? Does it matter where you'd have to move??
Ladies, do you feel like the man should be the one to relocate?

I'm seeing this gentleman that i've known for quite sometime **squeals & bats eyelashes** (I LIKE HIM), so this question is the result of a personal thought "would I ever relocate for love?"

I think I would actually, with no problem, although I prefer the city over the bluegrass fields of Kentucky...i'd relocate as a result of matters of the heart.


WHAT ABOUT YOU???

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

Question of the day...

If youre still friends with an ex flame/boyfriend/girlfriend whatever...would you invite them to your wedding or disregard the friendship for fear that your more than steamy past would upset your fiance?

TALK TO ME BLOGGERS!!!

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Is gorgeous & regular...irregular???


So, my co-worker and I often talk about men and all that comes with that. We also often talk about famous men and it's no secret that quite a few famous men tend to be abnormally handsome, I mean some are outright gorgeous (& understandably so), but our question is, WHERE ARE THE REGULAR BLUE COLLAR, BOARDROOM, WALKING IN THE MALL, DOWN THE STREET, IN YOUR LOCAL BOOKSTORE GUYS THAT LOOK LIKE THIS????

I'm not just talking about guys that i've met but i'm talking about in daily observation while on your lunch break, cruisin the mall, driving, running errands, whatever...where are the undiscovered, regular joe Lance Gross, Kenyon Martin, Keston Karter, Boris types?????????? Where do they hangout? Bank? Work? Shop????? Where?!?!?!?!?

I mean what does a girl have to do to get some good eye candy? I have never seen a guy that is that level of handsome in regular life....NEVER!!

I've lost hope there....GORGEOUS REGULAR men are NOT regular, at all!!!!










Thursday, December 3, 2009

He did what?????


Okay, so chik, on twitter lastnight, "outed" Pretty Ricky's Pleasure P as a child molester. Pretty Ricky and Pleasure, individually have been known for sexually explicit lyrics so I can't fake, my eyebrows did raise at the thought of this actually being true. It has been said that "Pleasure P, Marcus Cooper, was kicked out of the group Pretty Ricky for hiding that he was a child molester, and his people hired her dad (the dad of the chik on twitter) to help cover it up, save his image, so he could get a record deal. WOW!! DAMN!!! is all I could say. These are pretty serious allegations to drag someone's name through and for the sake of his reputation, career I pray they are actually true. Noone would believe they are false if he says they are. How'd he come back from that. This is serious stuff. HOWEVER, supposedly the girl's dad who was again, hired by Pleasure P's people to "keep" his career and image so to speak, hasn't been being paid regularly and so NOW she saw fit to take to twitter and do damage.
What's done in the dark will ALWAYS come to the light. For the sake of everyone's lives I hope the truth is exposed soon.

Wednesday, November 4, 2009


OK!!! So, Nas and Kelis are still going back and forth about noneother than $$$$$$$$$$$

Supposedly Kelis has been ordered about $72,500 a month in spousal support, NOT TO MENTION the $50k she gets a month in child support. HOWEVER, NAS has filed papers demanding that, that order be blocked and that Kelis doesn't see the money. Reportedly, his main concern is the baby and that the baby is taken care of, NOT continuing to support Kelis post marriage.......

$72K A MONTH????????? IF SHE CAN GET IT, I'M NOT MAD @ HER!!!!! WHOA!!

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Song I can't get out of my head.....


Chrisette's "NOTEBOOK"

I love that song, it is so relevant to the events and lack of events taking place in my life right now. I'm late getting her album "Epiphany" but, in college, the last album "I AM" was like therapy!!!

"I'm feelin you, you feelin meBut still we can't be togetherI got a feelin'You got these same feelinsToo bad we can't feel 'em togetherI sit on my bed and wonderHow it'd be if you were mineI think of you like no otherHere's what I do every night..."

EXACTLY HOW I FEEL!!! Could not have found a better way to say it myself!!! It's funny how art truly does imitate life and at times when we haven't a clue how to sum up, in words, what's going on in life. I love this song. He is soo far....but IN MY NOTEBOOK LOL***

Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Terrell Owens, Dwight Howard, JayZ & LANCE**

OK so my range of celebrity crushes range from the likes of the RIPPED Terrell Owens, Ball player Dwight Howard, the street smart corporation that is JayZ and NOW @ the top of the list Lance Gross!! Eva has got a gem on her arm. I like them on the darker side medium brown skin to dark BUT for some reason I only attract lightskin guys!! I only remember one of my exes being brown skin. I have always thought Lance was handsome and he is the ONLY reason I watch that Tyler Perry tv show but DAMN, my jaw dropped when I saw his new pics; definitely had me thinking some things and feeling some type of way.
LADIES LANCE IS DEFINITELY SOMETHING TO LOOK OUT FOR ALTHOUGH HE'S OFF LIMITS:

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Tall, Dark/Light/Caramel/White Chisled AND handsome!!!




OK, so I LOVE men!!!! As a beautiful recently single gal I have noticed that I have been noticing the mens a little more lately!!! A friend of mine just said to me tonight "you really don't have a type"....that's true, I DON'T!!! I like a variety, men (well some men lol) are compliments of our femininity; beautiful, sexy, perfect masculinity, strength & confidence!!!! How could I not love them....especially my BEAUTIFULLY together BLACK men. GOD broke the mold when he made them! My adrenaline rises at the likes of Terrel Owens, Boris Kudjoe, David Beckham, Trey Songz, Halle's Gabriel Aubrey, Derek Rose, and Aubrey Graham just to name a FEW!!!! LOL, yea, I miss the exclusiveness of a relationship and BLAH, BLAH, BLAH but i'm definitely enjoying the post college single life.....I'm sampling baby!!!!!! Here's a little eyecandy...