Showing posts with label LOVE black men. Show all posts
Showing posts with label LOVE black men. Show all posts

Wednesday, November 30, 2011

CUFFn Season....


I love the holiday season but as unreal as it seems, I'm still getting used to maneuvering through CUFFn season as a single gal *Grrrrrr*

I'm not the girl that feels like life is over because she doesn't have a beau BUT it's holiday season!!  The smell of pine and peppermint are in the air, there is an abundance of time and money to be spent on those we love most;  Boys II Men, Mariah Carey, Destiny's Child, Temptations, and Nat King Cole are all over the holiday airwaves, holiday movies are coming out left & right...and who doesn't love Christmas day snuggling??  Breakfast in bed, movies, Christmas morning passion, switching gifts, more holiday passion (LOL), dinner with the fam, then more snuggling with family, fire, and lots of memory making!!

Winter is the season of love but for a self proclaimed hopeless romantic, it can be the season of "woe is me."  Moreso than Valentines, to me, the holiday season is all about romance.  Think about it you have the lights, fragrances, cold weather to keep you in, family meals, Christmas gifting is all about mystery and mystery has always been sexy! .....

Let me snap out of it because none of that is what the season is really about, well, not completely anyway but the holidays and romance are like frick and frack, they simply just go together!!! My Christmas list is rather short all I want is a happy, HEALTHY, baby girl in the new year but a new, tall, dark, handsome, unexpected, fresh, romance to crush on would be nice too :)

Sooo Santa baby jazz it up a bit this year or next

#FavoriteNBAMoments

This about sums it up...

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Anyone else over this?!?!

So, I don't follow all the sports but hell if I don't look forward to NBA season every year!  I'm so over this lockout I could scream and choke an owner and a player!!  End this already!! The negotiations have gone on too long and NOBODY is winning in this production...which is exactly what they are turning this into, a full on dramatc PRODUCTION.  Not to mention the thousands,  maybe millions of people whose jobs depend on there being an NBA season every year.  The owners and players association need to get it together and think about the fans!!  I'm stuck looking at the EVER SO DRY Basketball Wives of LA, LaLa's Full Court Life, and the Kardashians to get my NBA fix lmao!!  *GRRRRRRRRRR* Stop the BS and give us a season...At this rate, we, the fans, can forget there being an All Star Weekend!  Winter just will not be right!

Saturday, August 13, 2011

"UNITED" States of America...The James Anderson Case

So, I have been trying to make an effort to stay up on National news. In my doing so, I came across the most saddening story about a man, James Anderson. As the doll that can cover it all, I will certainly be offering an opinion about this story. For those of you that are not familiar with the James Anderson story, here is an excerpt about the story from CNN's website:

"Jackson, Mississippi (CNN) -- On a recent Sunday morning just before dawn, two carloads of white teenagers drove to Jackson, Mississippi, on what the county district attorney says was a mission of hate: to find and hurt a black person. In a parking lot on the western side of town they found their victim. James Craig Anderson, a 49-year-old auto plant worker, was standing in a parking lot, near his car. The teens allegedly beat Anderson repeatedly, yelled racial epithets, including "White Power!" according to witnesses. Hinds County District Attorney Robert Shuler Smith says a group of the teens then climbed into their large Ford F250 green pickup truck, floored the gas, and drove the truck right over Anderson, killing him instantly. "

I can imagine that, like myself, most people have been FLABBERGASTED by this story!! For a young African American woman it's; frustrating, infuriating, astonishing, hurtful, and a REMINDER!!! America refuses to part with her first, truest, longest lasting romance with RACISM!! Racism is ever present and abound...the oppression, discrimination, prejudice against people of color, namely African American people will never be something we REMEMBER. We did not need to know this story to remind us of this fact, just look at the hard time that the President of the Nation is getting and we all know why its that way! Oh and remember the Jena 6 in Jena, Louisiana? Yea, that was less than 10 years ago..forgot about that? I posted about that too!

While, the death of James Anderson and the means by which he died should really not be a surprise to people, it is because of where we are as a country, but honestly it should not be because of the same reason. Mississippi especially, has teetered tottered with it's Jim Crow past since the day of Reconstruction. Doubt me? The state did not adopt the 13th Amendment UNTIL 1995!!!! HOWEVER, with ALL OF THAT, taken into account; the nerve, the gull, the motivation, the will of someone to act the way those teenagers did that night is ASTONISHING, APPALLING, SHOCKING, HATEFUL, MORBID TO say the LEAST!!


I will be glued to the media to see just how the state of Mississippi, who has declared this a racial, hate crime already, will handle this case and the offenders.



They should be made example of in every way possible, National examples.


Let this incident remind us that to know one's history and to progress as a unit and a country is to also take on the responsibility to personally rectify it by any means necessary. It is PRE-Election year, remember the voting rights act was not passed until 1965, schools were not desegregated until 1954, it took 232 years approximately to get our first President of color, the President was just publicly called a "Tar baby", and everyday subtle gestures of racism are among us all. These were not old people that killed James Anderson. They did not burn crosses and sport white robes and masks. These were simply teenagers with evil intentions that had fatal results...in the America we live in NOW! It was not that long ago that the parents, grandparents, and great grandparents of these children hosed down blacks, refused service to blacks, and owned slaves! Like folk tales, and recipes, ideas of racism and evil are passed down through generations. WE, AMERICANS, have to KNOW better to do better for the common good. My prayers are extended to both the family of James Anderson as well as his soul, and the families of those teenagers.


Will Mississippi adequately seek justice?


Friday, May 13, 2011

Future Ex-husband.....NBA finals edition

Humble, lowkey, BEAUTIFUL, loves his mama, and is a BEAST on the Hardwood....*prissy kisses* to my future Ex-husband Derrick Rose!!!!

Sunday, December 19, 2010

Halfway in and wanting out...

Going on two years!! We play tug of war, cat & mouse with each other's emotions...I know I can't handle it, im only falling in more, the distance is the enemy but he could, if he wanted to, do so much more...

Welcome to my inner thoughts, well, as they pertain to HIM anyway! This is stupid! Who allows themself to begin falling for someone 200+ miles away!?!!? BUT, when I say he's THAT GUY, he really is THAT GUY; handsome, tall (6'3"), intelligent, gainfully employed, single, no children, senses of humor, athletic...............................all but he's NOT HERE!!! WTf!

I mean I like this guy, really like this one...we have history too but something is missing! I want pampering, catering and he's just not giving that. I'm stuck between wanting to ride this out (have fun, see where it goes), just being his friend, and well, being NEITHER! When Deborah & R.L sang "We can't be friends" they were definitely singing about us. WE CAN'T! We try and we suck at it because there is something there but for the life of me, I can't figure out if he is worth finding out what that is...*sigh*. I WANT OUT!! This is way too confusing, I mean I could love him one day but I don't want to....ugh!!

I hate not getting what I want & this has definitely been a challenge: a stupid hormone filled one...Excuses my venting!!!!!

Wednesday, September 8, 2010

Northern Swag v. Southern Charm

LADIES!!! I'm from the DMV that's the D.C, Maryland, Virginia area for those that don't know! Born and raised in the sexy nation's capitol!!!! To some i'm from the north, to others i'm what they call a southern belle and to others I fall right in between living here. However, my question is to the ladies....
When it comes to men, I always find myself drawn to the confidence, swag (yea i hate the word too), walk, accent, style, and flava of a guy from up top...most notably The Empire and Garden States (that's New York and New Jersey)...I like them, the slang, the cockiness, and perceived rudeness, the way they rock a fitted, and call you ma!!!!!!!!!
BUT....
I'm aware that some ladies prefer a man south of the mason dixon...we call them, well, the worthy ones, Southern Gentleman. They're handy, can fix you a good meal, likely open all your doors, court you the old fashioned way (flowers, romance, walks). To me, they tend to be softer, gentler, and sweeter....even the "hard" ones....they're a good look too.
However, I have a preference so I was wondering if my readers/followers did too????? What's your preference Lovin' from up top OR a good ol' southern gentleman?!?!?!?!? NORTH OR SOUTH???

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

The Conversation...


we've all had it with friends, family, and people we're dating. You know, the conversation about dating and relationships...I find it particularly interesting to have those kinds of conversations with a male than female, because it's likely she's thinking what i'm already thinking and its funny to hear how men think of women, in relationships. Yesterday I finished reading Hill Harper's book...The Conversation (two years too late) but hey, late is always better than never!!!! My female followers have GOT to go pick up this book if you haven't already!!! Hill (successful actor, author, and Harvard Law grad) covers this "conversation" about how Black men and women can build loving, trusting relationships, like NOONE else!!

He talks about it all, his own relationship fears, what he thinks, and what I liked most is he got the men to open up (ALL THE WAY UP) about how they felt about their female counterparts, Black women...and ladies you know we definitely put in our two cents throughout this book....This book is honest, captivating, and so much more!! Anyone, especially anyone Black that is interested in changing their mindset about Black love or just hearing the ideas of others about why we, as people, do what we do and dont do...needs to pickup this book!!


From money, marriage, exes, kids, cheating, to relationships, looks at self, faith, health, sex and STDs, this book went IN!!!!

This book made me wish I was in a book club full of 20-something black men and women, having passionate debates at busboys about this ish....GO GET IT!!!! THEN LETS BLOG/TALK ABOUT IT!!

I LOVE BLACK MEN!!! This book helped completely understand me in the eyes of them! and made me love them and understand them even more!!!

Thursday, July 1, 2010

Morning tea...


The questions i'm asking my fab followers this morning are:

Would you relocate for love?? Under what circumstances would you move for love? Does it matter where you'd have to move??
Ladies, do you feel like the man should be the one to relocate?

I'm seeing this gentleman that i've known for quite sometime **squeals & bats eyelashes** (I LIKE HIM), so this question is the result of a personal thought "would I ever relocate for love?"

I think I would actually, with no problem, although I prefer the city over the bluegrass fields of Kentucky...i'd relocate as a result of matters of the heart.


WHAT ABOUT YOU???

Friday, April 16, 2010

White Collar Adonis...Mr. Bookkeeper...

LOL @ how "Mr.Bookkeeper" would make his skin crawl!! He's actually an accountant but screw that, I like Mr. Bookkeeper better. He's coming into town tonight (From NJ). This should be interesting! It's been a year since i've seen this man, but despite our daily talks, not so bleak past, and very obvious & imposing chemistry, my nerves are a jumping and my mind is a racing....honestly, I don't even know the real purpose behind this visit. He said he was coming down and I was like "OK" I mean I don't have anything else to do. I might as well host his highness this weekend.....

Anyway his visit isn't the only thing I'm unsure of; Like why is he visiting, why do we talk so much, why is he back in my life at all (question for the past year), Do I like him, why do I keep him around and him me????????? It's weird because we don't talk about this stuff. Like the huge pink elephant in the room, the mounds of chemistry, physical attraction between us just awkwardly stands around as we clumsily prance around it with normal topics of discussion of our days, work, life.....all but dating LOL!!!! We talk about everything but THAT and that i'm not too sure of either. Why is THAT?!?!? For hours on end we quiz each other about current events, we laugh, share jokes, reminsce, and talk about everything EXCEPT our interaction with the opposite sex. That both comforts me and concerns me all while I'm still wondering what the heck is it that he wants from me!

So there goes the story of my weekend...I'll be entertaining my friend/former beau/Mr.Bookkeeper. Maybe i'll finally be able to answer some of those questions....UGH, I got **butterflies** Eeeeeeeek!!!!!!!!!!

UPDATE: So, Mr. Bookkeeper kept me company for most of the weekend. He arrived a little after 10pm Friday night and as he emerged from his car all the butterflies went away, my nerves calmed and for the duration of his stay, everything fell into place....so to speak. I didn't bother to quiz him on all the wonders of my mind like what we're doing, what's between us, etc, etc because I like what IS right now. I ended a long term situation FOR GOOD in February and well, it's cool to just have something with little expectations, labels, and the stressful works, i'm having fun....The distance actually helps with that too. The MAN I spent the weekend with has certainly and completely evolved from the not so grown man he was when I dated him his Senior year of college. I mean, was there anyway he wasn't winning me over, having me blush???? IDK what the cologne was but all my happy parts loved it, his height is sooo right for my 5ft 9" frame at 6ft 3inches....he's everything I didn't even realize I was missing the past three and half years; Tall, handsome, Assertive, and ladies I don't know about yall but I love a man that sort of IMPOSES traditional gender roles on me putting me in the place of the woman (the nurturer, the caterer) while he protects, provides and LEADS. He's intelligent (love a man that always has something to teach me), goal oriented it, his work ethic is SICK & at there seems to be no slowing him down on the corporate ladder. It was a sensual weekend....we lauged, flirted, blushed, kissed, hugged, spooned, talked, debated over sports, shopped a little together, cuddled and kissed & hugged some more. NOW, can you see why I didn't bother with the questions....it's fun, light and innocent right now and there is a nostalgia about that, that I can't shake and I don't wanna ruin it before it's time. He's my magnet and it's weird because when I talk to him there sort of feels like there was no in between, like, all of what happend in our lives in the past three and a half years we were apart didn't happen at all. I like this and the mystery of it all.....

In essence all the questions I really wanted answered WERE answered: The attraction, spark, fun, and interest all are still there and on top of it all he's a great friend!!! In the end that really is all I want....A great friend!!!

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Is gorgeous & regular...irregular???


So, my co-worker and I often talk about men and all that comes with that. We also often talk about famous men and it's no secret that quite a few famous men tend to be abnormally handsome, I mean some are outright gorgeous (& understandably so), but our question is, WHERE ARE THE REGULAR BLUE COLLAR, BOARDROOM, WALKING IN THE MALL, DOWN THE STREET, IN YOUR LOCAL BOOKSTORE GUYS THAT LOOK LIKE THIS????

I'm not just talking about guys that i've met but i'm talking about in daily observation while on your lunch break, cruisin the mall, driving, running errands, whatever...where are the undiscovered, regular joe Lance Gross, Kenyon Martin, Keston Karter, Boris types?????????? Where do they hangout? Bank? Work? Shop????? Where?!?!?!?!?

I mean what does a girl have to do to get some good eye candy? I have never seen a guy that is that level of handsome in regular life....NEVER!!

I've lost hope there....GORGEOUS REGULAR men are NOT regular, at all!!!!










Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Black men might be....

my all time guitly pleasure. I know the boyfriend would just die if he read this but after reading that essence magazine last night (YES, the new one with fine, rock hard, chocolate Reggie Bush on it), Im still a little excited because my mind keeps going there sinfully recollecting the pictures of Reggie, Lance Gross, Terrence Howard, Maxwell...chocolate, whether it be milk, dark or white has ALWAYS been my flavor of choice!! To me, there is nothing more alluring, mysterious, and sensual than a black man!! I mean there is the black woman because we're some BAD creatures ourselves, but I'm speaking from the perspective of a heterosexual, black woman and the black man in all his flavor, silent yet overwhelming strength, mystery, quiet confidence and meticulously put together fineness has had me lustfully daydreaming since forever!!! I LOVE them!! Lord knows I prefer them!! Don't get me wrong I don't discriminate against the men. White men are cool, Latin men are another story I like them too, Italians are okay, and a few asians have caught my eye too, but NO man has the commanding presence of a strong, black man. From every walk of life the black man brings to the table the strength, charisma and SPICE** There is NOTHING stronger, tastier, smarter, wittier, sexier, more exciting than a BLACK man !!!





Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Song I can't get out of my head.....


Chrisette's "NOTEBOOK"

I love that song, it is so relevant to the events and lack of events taking place in my life right now. I'm late getting her album "Epiphany" but, in college, the last album "I AM" was like therapy!!!

"I'm feelin you, you feelin meBut still we can't be togetherI got a feelin'You got these same feelinsToo bad we can't feel 'em togetherI sit on my bed and wonderHow it'd be if you were mineI think of you like no otherHere's what I do every night..."

EXACTLY HOW I FEEL!!! Could not have found a better way to say it myself!!! It's funny how art truly does imitate life and at times when we haven't a clue how to sum up, in words, what's going on in life. I love this song. He is soo far....but IN MY NOTEBOOK LOL***

Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Terrell Owens, Dwight Howard, JayZ & LANCE**

OK so my range of celebrity crushes range from the likes of the RIPPED Terrell Owens, Ball player Dwight Howard, the street smart corporation that is JayZ and NOW @ the top of the list Lance Gross!! Eva has got a gem on her arm. I like them on the darker side medium brown skin to dark BUT for some reason I only attract lightskin guys!! I only remember one of my exes being brown skin. I have always thought Lance was handsome and he is the ONLY reason I watch that Tyler Perry tv show but DAMN, my jaw dropped when I saw his new pics; definitely had me thinking some things and feeling some type of way.
LADIES LANCE IS DEFINITELY SOMETHING TO LOOK OUT FOR ALTHOUGH HE'S OFF LIMITS:

Thursday, September 24, 2009

African American White Collar Adonis

So when talking to my girlfriends, we almost always get on the subject of men....we're women!! Such a discussion always come around to the type of man desired by each of us and sadly, that type is almost nonexistent THE AFRICAN AMERICAN WHITE COLLAR ADONIS!!!! Where is he? I do loads of active observing, active listening and as I commute to work everyday, interract with my coworkers, travel out of the office to lunch, reflect on the demographics of my college classes, I realize that he may be more of a mythical creature than we think. One can call it what they want (Golddigger, Groupie, etc) but I know what I want, am not trying to compromise, and see nothing wrong with my chikas because they prefer a man with power, respect, intellect, influence, success, and maybe even an advanced degree or two. The numbers of professional/advanced degree holding African American women are ever increasing, but they aren't so much in regards to our African American male counterparts.....Their presence in the office is almost usually one of the blue collar service worker, support employee. Not too many of then in comprising the leadership roles in entrepreneurship, "Executive-ship", management. While I am in no way presenting an argument that there are NO African American men in the workplace in these higher positions, I am simply stating the facts....Sisters are climbing the ladder and brothers aren't leading, climbing beside us!!! Whats up with that??!!!!

I LOVE my black males; would prefer to settle down with one, build a family/life with one but I would be out of mind & oblivious to think that the odds are in my favor. They simply aren't!!! Let's start with the number one statistic. African Americans comprise roughly between 13-15% of the U.S populations with that number (whatever the exact number is) being more of a stable percentage (staying the same). Women already out number men as the givers of life. Furthermore, any college student can do a observation of his/her campus or another's campus and develop the accurate conclusion that African American males do not enter and graduate college at the same rates as African American women (try it & I promise thats the conclusion). With those factors taken into mind the number of eligible, marriagable, college educated (not even counting those that get to or have obtained an advanced/professional degree) men has just dwindled. Now take into the account sexuality (homosexuality is more prevalent than ever before), incarceration rates, the number that have a child from a previous relationship. The conclusion is simple and research back me up!!! African American women will undoubtly face choices in the dating/marriage pool that other woment DO NOT & LIKELY WILL NOT face.

Those choices are: (1.) To marry down to a man that doesn't have as much education as she, isn't as successful as she (career wise). (2.) To marry outside of her race, which isn't impossible but the reality is that Black women have not/are not at the top of the list for men of other races due to factors not their own fault such as media portrayals, stereotypes, etc. (3.) Some women will ultimately share a man by being the mistress, other woman so to speak. (4.) Some will NOT wed at all. I'm sure the list could be a little more extensive but those are just a few things that are up against the educated, goal oriented, marriage/family seeking Black woman that is seeking to marry an equally or more educated, successful, eligible Black man.

All the above factors are and should be taken into account HOWEVER we mustn't forget the doctrine of the "forbidden fruit." Some Black men will look outside their race for a mate despite the number of eligible, marriageable, intelligent, attractive Black women. Historically, this has been for a number of reasons such as other women are more submissive, white women and the forbidden fruit doctrine, and the exotic/different appeal of women of other races. All those facts mean simply one thing!!! Women of other races can and have to choose from ALL men while the same isn't necessarily true for African American women. Discouraging much, I know!!!

However, my prayer is that love will strike all...matrimony is a wonderful union!!! May all who wish to experienc it do so. Prayfully demographics are changing!!!!
I recommend Hill Harper's new book "The Conversation..."

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Tall, Dark/Light/Caramel/White Chisled AND handsome!!!




OK, so I LOVE men!!!! As a beautiful recently single gal I have noticed that I have been noticing the mens a little more lately!!! A friend of mine just said to me tonight "you really don't have a type"....that's true, I DON'T!!! I like a variety, men (well some men lol) are compliments of our femininity; beautiful, sexy, perfect masculinity, strength & confidence!!!! How could I not love them....especially my BEAUTIFULLY together BLACK men. GOD broke the mold when he made them! My adrenaline rises at the likes of Terrel Owens, Boris Kudjoe, David Beckham, Trey Songz, Halle's Gabriel Aubrey, Derek Rose, and Aubrey Graham just to name a FEW!!!! LOL, yea, I miss the exclusiveness of a relationship and BLAH, BLAH, BLAH but i'm definitely enjoying the post college single life.....I'm sampling baby!!!!!! Here's a little eyecandy...